Tuesday, August 26, 2008


I think sometimes people wonder whether or not they should bring up a deceased child, if bringing him/her up would make the mom slip into sadness. I personally love it when Nathan is mentioned. Talking about him keeps him "real." I like this poem, which captures the idea.


Go ahead and mention my child,
The one that died, you know.
Don't worry about hurting me further.
The depth of my pain doesn't show.
Don't worry about making me cry.
I'm already crying inside.
Help me to heal by releasing the tears that I try to hide.
I'm hurt when you just keep silent,
Pretending he didn't exist.
I'd rather you mention my child,
Knowing that he has been missed.
You asked me how I was doing.
I say "pretty good" or "fine".
But healing is something ongoing
I feel it will take a lifetime.

~ Elizabeth Dent ~

1 comment:

Marcie said...

So true... It often feels like they are forgotten and when someone mentions their name, it means so much. So sorry for your loss of your precious Nathan.