Saturday, April 23, 2011

Secure Daughters Confident Sons by Glenn T. Stanton

I thoroughly enjoyed this book. I don't usually like to write in books, but there were so many points that resonated with my experiences (thus far) with raising a boy and a girl and so many things I wanted to remember, that I wanted to underline it to pieces. Once my husband reads it, there are so many things to discuss together about it.

My previous experiences reading about females vs males have all been in the realm of marriage and relationships. This was such an interesting read as it was in the context of raising males and females.
Having "one of each kind" (of child) allowed me to take each concept and think through what I've experienced in real life thus far. What are the basic needs/desires of a boy's heart vs. the basic needs of a girl's? Very different. The actions, thoughts, and feelings of a girl vs a boy are different. God has made us uniquely male/female, but the incredible thing is how universal that difference is, even across cultures.

I like that he addresses the necessity of a mom and dad's impact on a child. Both are needed; both contribute to a male's maleness and female's femaleness. He addresses how moms and dads parent differently, and how that's ok. Again, it takes the combination of both to complete the child. "In the amazing project of creating men from boys, we do well to recognize a curious fact about every single boy who has ever come forth into the world, including your own: not one of them has ever been a man before! As a rule, people who have never done something before need some help and direction in learning how to do it. Few pick it up all by themselves." (p.111) Parenting is necessary. Sure, a child will numerically grow in age with or without a parent's control, however to raise a healthy man or woman, we need to take our role of parenting seriously and be involved. And in doing so, we need to take into consideration the differences of our girl children vs our boy children.

I highly recommend this book if you are a parent. It is a great reminder about how the child you are raising is "designed" and what needs to be considered if you have a boy or a girl.

I received this book for free from WaterBrook Multnomah Publishing Group for this review.
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